Justice – Good to hear from you. Agree that no two are the same. Best advice one could give another. I think too often those of us in reunion think ours should be or will be like someone elses. They arent. Adoption trauma may be the single constant – but our humanness inetoducrs a multitude of variables that make each one unique. Hence, no available guidbooke or set rules. Fly by the seat of your pants and hope for the best.